October 31, 2013 by Dadinator
“Yes, lad, that’s a new mask we put it out yesterday”
“Yes, that’s the new mask”
The meal continues. Vegetables are rejected, then eaten and then…
There’s a fair bit of repetition involved in parenting. I think it’s something that often gets glossed over in descriptions of the job. This little scenario has been going on for 3 days now, and woe betide any who fails to acknowledge the “New Mask” when it is pointed out. I have no idea when it will stop being “new”. I also have no idea when he will have an understanding of what a ‘mask’ is and what it’s for….
There’s a fair bit of repetition involved in parenting. I think it’s something that often gets glossed over in descriptions of the job. The little scenario has been going on for 3 days now, and woe betide any who fails to acknowledge the “New Mask” when it is pointed out. I have no idea when it will stop being “new”. I also have no idea when he will have an understanding of what a ‘mask’ is and what it’s for….
(See what I did there hee hee hee)
People tend to harp on about change and development and how kids grow up so fast, (I did it myself) but some days, well, you do get a strong sense that you’ve done it all before. Probably yesterday. Possibly just a couple of hours ago. That is not to say you never see new, it happens frequently, it’s just that the new stuff (such as the new mask…) becomes old pretty fast, and seems to hang around until it gets displaced by something else. Which then gets repeated ad nauseam .
I don’t know why toddlers keep on doing the same thing again and again. They press buttons on toys that make the same noise over and over again. They play games over and over again. They say the same things over and over again. It’s probably part of how they learn and how they test the world around them. Or maybe it’s some kind of re-assurance for them, providing anchors in a world that must at times seem scary.
In the example above, Toddler logic says “I see the mask, when I see the mask I say New Mask, then mum or dad says “New Mask” back, and all is well”. It’s like pressing a button that makes an annoying noise on a toy. In some way it’s entertaining.
The real downside of this is that sometimes it all becomes a game.
A toy, replete with buttons to be pushed, knobs to be turned and things to play with. I find The Lad has an almost irresistible urge to push/turn/pull any, and I mean ANY button/knob/lever/switch he finds in visual range. It happens with light switches. It happens with the BBQ. It happens with the dishwasher. It happens with his own toys. It happens with the computer if he gets to it.
He also throws things. ALL THE TIME. If it is small enough to be thrown he seems to have an irresistible urge to test his arm out on it. The number of times I have said “….. is not for throwing” (“…..” could be: shoes, food, plates, blocks, books, rubber ducks, trains….) is quite mind boggling given that he hasn’t been able to throw for all that long.
And then there’s the bath water. Blech… He drinks it all the time. I have told him not to so many times. I have said “that’s not for drinking”, “That’s Yucky” and more recently simply “Spit it out!” (which he loves doing), and yet it keeps on going.
I suppose he’s going to keep on testing the world around him for a while yet, and his capacity to do it will only expand as he grows and his capabilities continue to expand. I just hope I have the patience to put up with it, and to take joy in all the new stuff he is learning to do. And then doing it again. And again. And again.
Have other parents experienced this out there? Love to hear I’m not the only one.